The two ingredients needed for your bubbles of love.

The two ingredients needed for your bubbles of love.

This season I guided a group designed to support women dealing with emotional burnout. We met for the last time (for fall) on Sunday to make music, to eat cookies, and to discuss connection. It was delightful.

Our conversation was based on the book, “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. Burnout explores the causes of stress as well as offers solutions to managing stress.

During our last group, we revisited the Human Giver Syndrome: a phenomenon in which “human givers are expected to offer their time, attention, affection, and bodies willingly, placidly, to the other class of people – human beings.” (p. xiii) A phenomenon, it is important to note, which only can occur within the confines of a dominator culture. In other words, where equality and equity exist there is not an expectation that one group of people will sacrifice their needs above another’s.

Unfortunately, we do not live (yet) in a culture without prejudice; therefore, people who are marginalized have to learn how to navigate unjust expectations without internalizing the message of “not enough.” One way to inoculate yourself from the Human Giver Syndrome virus, according to Emily and Amelia, is to create and to maintain environments which fuel a response of “I am enough.” Emily and Amelia call these environments “bubbles of love.” (p.141)

Bubbles of love require two specific ingredients…

What do you want to plant for future generations?

What do you want to plant for future generations?

One of the books I am slowly reading is Orwell’s Roses by the essayist Rebecca Solnit. Solnit shares an essay written by George Orwell in 1946 entitled “A Good Word for the Vicar of Bray.” In the essay, George Orwell describes a yew tree planted by a seventeenth-century vicar who was known for vacillating from one political affiliation to another. The vicar was survived by a satirical song and the aforementioned yew tree. George Orwell writes…

Contemplating the significance of your animal messenger.

Contemplating the significance of your animal messenger.

On the eve of Thanksgiving, I am filled with gratitude for the Shakti community. Your big hearts and warm smiles are a gift. Thank you!

Bear visited our town, literally. Last week a small Black Bear cub wandered onto our local university’s campus. Students were herded back into buildings until the cub was safely relocated. The young bear caused quite a stir and prompted me to look up information about bears. Here are some of the facts I discovered.*

I invite you to sit in circle and weave together a new tapestry with us.

I invite you to sit in circle and weave together a new tapestry with us.

Recently I pulled out one of my favorite reads from last year: Wild Mercy: Living the Fierce and Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics by Mirabai Starr. I love the way Mirabai uses words to weave a sensual experience, which invites you into a deeper exploration of the Divine Feminine. I highly recommend this book.

As I was re-reading the book, I came across the story of Tara, the Buddhist goddess of compassion. Upon her inception, Tara made a commitment to alleviate suffering by meditating for ten million years. Over the course of her long practice, she set millions of people free by…

Quite often what makes us eccentric is misunderstood, belittled, rejected, or ridiculed.

Quite often what makes us eccentric is misunderstood, belittled, rejected, or ridiculed.

There is a pressure to conform: to hide our eccentricities, and even worse, to reject our worth because of our eccentricities.

We tend to reject what has been judged. Judgment occurs every time the dominant culture purports there is only one way to be or to look. When we exalt a narrowly defined beauty standard, when we uphold gender-specific behaviors and roles, when we teach race-biased narratives, then we, directly and indirectly, create a norm which only benefits a few and keeps the rest small and compliant.

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