As some of you may know, Shakti in the Mountains offers a Stewardship Program which encourages people to identify and to live into their soul’s purpose. I love teaching Stewardship classes and Going Within, the six-week Stewardship class that I am teaching this winter, is no exception. Gathering with people who yearn for wholeness, who want to align with their soul’s purpose, is fulfilling, inspiring, and joyful work. I receive so much more than I give. I love holding space for and witnessing the personal transformations which naturally unfold when people are committed to change and feel held by their community. I am so grateful to all the folks who agreed to be a part of Going Within. Thank you for showing up and speaking out!
Because our last meeting was so powerful, I thought I would share a practice from our gathering and invite you to respond, if you wish, to how this practice landed with you. The practice which I am sharing comes from Lisa Lahey and Robert Kegan’s book Immunity to Change. Lahey and Kegan are educators who have spent over 25 years studying when and how people make changes. I first learned of their work when I heard Lisa Lahey interviewed by Brene Brown on the Dare to Lead podcast. I was so impressed by her answers that I immediately ordered the book. The book explains the science behind the practice; however, if you would like to skip the details and go straight to the practice, then read this brief article and download the corresponding worksheet. This worksheet was the one I used in last week’s Going Within class.
If you are wondering why a practice about making change was used during a Stewardship class, then reflect on a time when you really, really wanted to do something different, but no matter how much you said you wanted to change, your choices (or lack thereof) did not create change. For example:
You said that you did not want to take on additional commitments so you could…
- focus on writing a book
- hiking 30 miles a week
- developing a new program
- making a quilt
- spending more time with your family
- Write in whatever goal best reflects what you want.
But instead you agreed to a commitment that leaves you drained and with no time to do what you said you wanted to do. Why?
Through their research, Lahey and Kegan believe the reason we do not make decisions that will help us reach our goals – goals that we really, really want to realize – is because we have an unconscious competing goal. In other words, there is a desire, a need, under the surface of our conscious mind that is more important than the change we say that we want.
Because so much of being a Shakti Steward requires bringing to light what was once buried in the dark, I use the interactive worksheet in the article mentioned above to unearth hidden motivations which are barriers to wholeness and alignment. Lest you think wholeness and alignment are one and done engagements, let me share that I often have to explore my motivations and find the Immunity to Change practices extremely helpful in this pursuit.
If you decide to use this worksheet, I would love to know what you thought about the practice. Please send me an email or share in person how you received this work.
Wishing everyone a wonderful week!
Kim Bushore-Maki is a soul-driven entrepreneur who understands the undeniable urge to create a business and a life filled with meaning and purpose. Her vision of opening a center where people could heal and grow led her to open Shakti in the Mountains in Johnson City, Tennessee: a place where the creative, feminine energy is nurtured and valued.
Kim is a licensed professional counselor and a yoga teacher. She completed the Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy program as well as the Shake Your Soul Yoga Dance program. Kim is very interested in somatic expressive therapy, archetypal psychology, gardening, herbalism, astrology, wisdom traditions, and regenerative economics.
Kim continues to build and to support inclusive, vibrant communities. She spends most of her time mentoring leaders, guiding healing programs, and providing mental health counseling.
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