This colder weather makes me want to bundle up in a sweater, eat delicious soup and get crafty with yarn and fabric that is.
That is exactly what happened last Sunday during our Stitching for Peace and Love gathering. Each woman who came brought a donation for the soup pot resulting in a delicious, warming meal. I am reminded of how we don’t have to have everything to create something beautiful or nourishing: we just need to have friends.
This same sentiment also expresses how I feel about creating beautiful and nourishing community. I don’t have to know how to do everything or even know all the answers, instead I only need to be willing to reach out and to engage others. Not only does this attitude eliminate anxiety around doing it all: this attitude also makes room for possibilities that I can’t even imagine. Exciting, no? And also a little scary, yes?
I just asked you to consider “reaching out” and “engaging others.” Holy Moley!
That means showing up before you have a yes. That means someone could say “no.” That means, gulp, feeling vulnerable.
Believe me. I get it. I have been playing with possibility for quite some time now. Most recently I am reaching out to women, whom I don’t know very well, and asking them to have a conversation with me. Some say yes and some say no.
I am learning that most no’s aren’t personal. I also am learning that people’s no’s are good information. No’s help me get better at asking as well as let me know who wants to dream with me and who doesn’t. All I can do is extend an invitation. In fact, that is all any one of us can do.
My invitation to you is to play with reaching out.
Ask someone to go to coffee. Ask someone to go on a walk. Ask someone to dance. The possibilities are endless. Remember it is not about getting a yes. It is about taking a risk, showing up, and getting over your fear of rejection.
There is a great TED Talk by Jia Jiang called “What I learned from 100 days of rejection.” In his TED Talk, Jia Jiang speaks to the importance of staying engaged and not running away the first time you hear no. Jia found that by continuing the conversation, asking the question “why,” and speaking directly to someone’s doubts he, more often than not, could turn an initial no into a yes.
If you accept my invitation, I would love to hear about your experience with asking. Please send me an email and let me know what you learned.
In the meantime, I ask you to check out our upcoming events. Try something new. Invite a friend to go with you. See what is possible.
Have a great week.